Everything comes from the mind, including sex

In the next installment of the series, prof. Michał Lew-Starowicz explains that sexual pleasure is born in the mind. So physical excitement at the sight of someone attractive or a loved one is not a freak of the body, but the result of its close cooperation with the brain.

This organ serves the god of pleasure, said Jim Pfaus, a psychology professor at Charles University in Prague, taking a plastic model of the brain in his hand. How is that!?
Many people think that pleasure is a purely physical sensation. However, pleasure does not actually happen in the skin, digestive system, penis or clitoris, but in the brain. Research on sexual desire and arousal proves this. Arousal is based on brain-body communication. The body is stimulated in conjunction with visual, auditory, olfactory and taste sensations. The brain, on the other hand, is the ticket to sexual pleasure. It receives a sensory signal that is processed, experienced as pleasant, and triggers a cascade of reactions throughout the body, from where pleasant stimuli again reach the brain. This is how bliss is born.

And what happens in my brain when I fall in love. How will it be different from when I’m not in love?
At the functional level, we can expect greater activation of the system associated with reward and less activity of the system associated with stimulus inhibition. This is clearly visible on fMRI imaging, i.e. magnetic resonance imaging. Example: when you are aroused, you want sex – we expect more brain activity in the area of ​​​​the hypothalamus, which is responsible for activating the genital response. Activity in all circuits of the reward system will also be increased. And characteristically, with the onset of orgasm, there is an increasing quieting of those parts of the brain that are associated with maintaining conscious control. This is why during orgasm we are in a slightly altered state of consciousness, surrendering control. And that’s why people who control themselves very strongly, have difficulty “saving” – they often also have difficulty experiencing an orgasm. It’s like they can’t “turn off” their prefrontal cortex.

Brain activity changes depending on the situation, context, which is very difficult to faithfully reproduce in experimental conditions. While it is easier to test the behavior of the brain in response to a specific sexual stimulus – for example, a photo of a naked person in a provocative shot – it is more difficult to convey the experience of passion between the subject and his partner. The brain of a person in love during sleep will function completely differently than during a date. This activity changes from second to second. It is not easy to create a simple research model of how the brain of a person in love works.

You take a lover’s brain under a magnifying glass, or rather under an MRI, and what do you see?
I will say half scientific, half romantic – our brain starts to spark, because many centers are activated and the release of neurotransmitters is increased, which are responsible for experiencing pleasure. He is flooded with a wave of dopamine. The inhibiting centers that tell us to behave in a prudent and careful manner have less to say – so the prefrontal cortex begins to fall asleep. Hence the term “seeing the world through rose-colored glasses”. 


Position 69 – is it the best position? Advantages and disadvantages

The 69 position is a variation of oral sex in which the lovers pleasure each other’s genitals with their mouth and tongue. In this arrangement of the bodies of two people, it is possible to achieve orgasm at the same time. This position has both advantages and disadvantages. Check what they are about.

  • Position 69 is one of many found in the Kama Sutra. It is also one of the most popular items. Why?
  • This type of position falls under the category of oral sex. This means that the couple stimulates each other’s genitals through the use of their mouth and tongue.
  • As with any position, there are pros and cons to using it during sex. How are they?

What is position 69 and what does it look like? 

Position 69 (six nine) in sex, also referred to as the “6 out of 9” or “sixty-nine” position is a love position, called by  the Kamasutra  – “auparishtaka”. What does its name mean? This concept is derived from the arrangement of the lovers’ bodies, which resembles the Arabic numerals “6” and “9”.

What is position 69 and what is it about? It is a type of  oral sex where the partners stimulate each other and at the same time each other’s genitals. During this type of sexual technique, the lovers stimulate each  other’s  intimate parts with their  lips and tongue .

The woman stimulates her lover’s penis (and sometimes also the scrotum, lower abdomen and anus (if the partner consents).

The man, on the other hand, orally caresses the clitoristhe labia, the entrance to the vagina of his partner, and also, not infrequently, the anus (if the partner agrees).

It can be an introduction to sexual intercourse or it can be a separate bed practice. 

Many lovers decide on this type of love when, for some reason, penetration of a member in a woman’s vagina is impossible. It is often on the list of sexologists’ advice as a good way to get into a routine in partner relationships . If partners are interested in changing and introducing a new quality to the bedroom, they should know what position 69 is.

What does position 69 look like? For this  sex position  to be performed, the lovers must be facing each other upside down and facing their partner’s genitals.

Variants of item 69

Position 69 has several variations. First of all, its type depends on who is on top.

The most common, classic one is that the man lies on his back and the woman lies on top of him, on her stomach, facing his genitals. While the partner “looks after” the partner’s member, he caresses her genitals.

This form of oral sex can be reversed so that the woman is on the bottom and the man on top. However, not every woman will be satisfied with a smaller room for maneuver in such a position.

The 69  side  position is another variation of the same kind of love. The lovers lie side-by-side, with their partner’s love organs in front of their faces, but also easy access to the other’s other intimate zones.

There are also more complicated, almost acrobatic types of this pose that require great strength and endurance from the lovers, especially from the man, and flexibility from the woman.

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